Lessons learned: Sometimes saying no is better

29 02 2012

I help out at a kids club at church, and last week, the guy due to do games this week said to me that he was away this week and would I mind doing it.

I have real difficulty saying no here. If he’d said would I like to, I probably would have said no, but he asked if I minded. Big mistake.

So, this week came around, I had a couple of game ideas in my head, people at work had helped with some ideas and I thought I might just about manage it.

I got down to kids club, sat with them through the craft, then went to the kitchen while they had drinks. By this point I’d realised how scared I was getting. I was too scared to even talk to them. My game ideas were falling apart due to not being right for their age, not having the right number of kids, not having the right equipment, and generally, just having boring ideas.

Someone came up to me and asked if I was ok and what my plans were, and quite frankly, I fell apart.

I’m a wuss and I’m sorry.

They told me it wasn’t a problem, someone else could do it, and I spent the rest of the evening with the older group which actually went really well.

But. How much easier would it have been for everyone, (particularly the wonderful people who stood in for me) if I had said no the week before and maybe caused inconvenience for someone, but at least would have given them 7 days to prepare rather than 7 seconds.

Pathetic isn’t it? But I think I learnt a lesson tonight.

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2 responses

25 03 2012
Blue Eyes

Aww! I’m exactly the same! I find it so hard to say no to people, but over the last year or so I have been getting better. I am currently reading an amazing book called ‘Boundaries’ by Dr Henry Cloud and Dr John Townsend. The tagline is ‘When to say yes, how to say no to take control of your life’. It’s a Christian book and has Bible references throughout it. It’s amazing and I recommend it soooo much. Apart from being incredibly interesting I am sure it will be very, very useful for me. I will definitely lend it to you when I finish it.
xx

25 03 2012
Ineke

Oo thanks so much! 🙂 sounds fab!

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