A Woman’s Place is in the Kitchen – by Sally Abé

20 11 2025

I’ve been a Great British Menu fan for years, and Sally has been a contestant on it a three times now. A friend who also watches the show got me her book for my birthday, and I’ve really enjoyed it.

You always hear that professional kitchens are very male heavy environments, but this book really painted a picture of what it’s like to be in one.

The book starts with her aged around 18 and with zero interest in food, going through to a hospitality degree, doing her placement at the Savoy, transferring to Claridge’s when the Savoy closes for refurbishment, and working her way up through various kitchens until she’s running her own. She’s good at explaining most things, to the point of too much repetition occasionally, but it means you nearly never feel alienated. There’s the occasional French term used but I just looked them up, and it’s not often!

There were a couple of times she made comments that did make me feel a bit lesser, for example “I considered dinner at Pizza Express an upmarket night out” – er, yup I still do! She also refers a couple of times to things that make her now smile at her naivety, but they are things that most readers would have no clue about, having not worked in a professional kitchen. A comment about “the most demanding customers – the ones who don’t dine out unless it’s a ‘special occasion'” also grated a bit…
This all said, they were few and far between, and as I said, most things she explained excellently.

I loved reading about how she wanted to run her kitchen as a place where people are just treated better.
– Where you don’t feel terrified of being told off for doing something wrong, but instead where someone else would step in and help.
– Where people don’t work 16 hour shifts (the idea that people do 16 hour shifts blew my mind!).
– Where some shifts are adjusted so that people who need to do the school run can still work in a kitchen.
– Where no one is allowed in the kitchen before the start time, where in her earlier roles, if you were less than an hour early, you were considered late!
– Where people help each other carry large pots instead of watching them struggle.
– Where someone can reduce their hours when pregnant rather than have to give up work entirely.
In short, where it’s not a “badge of honour” to have a horrendous work-life balance. Her aims are really fantastic, and she’s achieving them.

A lot of the book is sharing the experiences she had that led to her wanting to make these changes, so you hear some truly awful things, but more than anything I just found it interesting to read, to learn about a way of life SO different from mine!

Great British Menu only got the briefest of glancing mentions, which was a shame. Not that she was negative about it, she spoke of the business it brought (or would have brought, had it not been for Covid) to her restaurant. To be honest, very little of her life outside of kitchens was covered at all (maybe because so much of her life was IN kitchens!) so I guess maybe she deemed it outside the focus of the book.

She did however cover Covid, and what it was like for those working in hospitality – you can still hear a lot of bitterness in her voice about the decisions the government made, particularly early on, advising people not to eat in restaurants, but doing nothing to support those working in them, and later when things reopened, making them close at 10pm.

Definitely worth a read if you want to learn what it’s really like in the kitchens that make your (or at least, fancy people’s) food. And really encouraging in regards to how things are changing for the better in some kitchens, albeit still with a long way to go overall.





The Court Jester – by Mansour Bahrami

24 07 2025

Mansour Bahrami has been my favourite tennis player for a long time. After growing up in Iran, and playing tennis with a broomstick handle in an empty swimming pool, he got his chance to play properly, but then just as top flight tennis was becoming an option, there was a revolution in the country. Who knows what he might have achieved if that wasn’t the case.

But as it is, he loves the sport, performing for a crowd, and would intentionally lose games to help make a match go on for longer! He’s most known for his tricks, mucking about, and general sense of fun.

He plays in the invitational doubles at Wimbledon each year (normally available on iPlayer in the second week of the tournament), and I’ve even watched him play at the Royal Albert Hall in 2013 (photo at the bottom where I queued up afterwards to meet him!).

He wrote the book in 2006, so it’s covering the first 50 years of his life, and it’s so interesting. There’s so much sadness and hardship that he’s been through, and yet, what he truly loves to do is entertain, it’s a joy. He’s now 69, and still as full of beans as he’s ever been.

I’ve found a video montage of some of his Wimbledon highlights from a couple of years ago, and listed many of the things I love about him! Please do enjoy

  • When he asks the umpire for a “mister”
  • When he serves with six balls in his hand
  • When he indicates to his opponent where is in and where is out after they miss, or that it needs to go over the net
  • When he catches a ball in his pocket
  • When he slowly creeps up to the net while waiting for his opponent to serve as if they can’t see him
  • When there’s a ball in his hand when the other team is serving, just incase
  • When he plays from both sides of the net
  • When he lets someone else (ball kid/someone from the crowd) play for him
  • When he pauses a point to pose for photos mid match
  • When he stands still and has the other players hit to exactly where he is
  • When he spins after each hit of the ball
  • When he encourages the other team with a “you can do it!”
  • When he stands right up at the net waiting for service, and then lifts it as the ball comes
  • When he takes the mick out of those who take forever to serve
  • How much he clearly loves every minute of it





Chasing the Dragon – by Jackie Pullinger

8 04 2025

Like many books of this genre (is “missionary testimony” a genre? If not it should be), this managed to inspire and discourage me all in one (but don’t worry, I gave it 5 stars on goodreads!).

Jackie Pullinger was a missionary in Hong Kong (and from what I can tell having googled, still is – in her 80s!), she moved there in 1966, and this book shares her experience of sharing Jesus, particularly with drug addicts and gang members in the old Walled City.

Her stories are amazing, and her methods so direct, with so many folk she would immediate explain who Jesus is, what He did for them, how they could know Him, and she would invite them to accept Him then and there, often this was quickly followed by them praying in tongues.

And this is what I mean by inspiring and discouraging simultaneously – inspiring is obvious, but discouraging because, my goodness, I’ve never seen anything of the like, nor know anyone who has! I fully believe it did and can happen, but her faith is something special! God has the power to do amazing things, but we just don’t have the faith to ask

A couple of my favourite bits:

“[Jesus] was the one perfect man who ever lived; He only did good, healed people and raised them from the dead, but His enemies put Him on a Cross and killed Him. He died for my sake but He did not wait till I was good before He died for me. He never said He would die for me only if I changed. While I ignored Him He laid down His life for me and even as He was dying He still said He forgave me.”

“Jesus doesn’t expect us to follow Him in our own strength, so if you are prepared to tell Him that you are sorry and ask forgiveness then He will forgive you. You can start again and He will give you the power to help you follow Him. The power is His Holy Spirit.”





Unrestrained – by Caroline Cameron

24 08 2024

Caroline is a colleague of mine who kindly gave us each a copy of her book when she joined our team a year or two ago, and I finally sat down to read it.

In the book she shares her story of abuse, including some truly awful examples of specific incidents, but also, her testimony of how God brought her through it.

The way it’s written means that, while the content is really harrowing at times, it’s actually really easy to read; the chapters are short, each ending in a space for pause and reflection. In fact, the further you get through it, the more it feels uplifting as you see how there really is hope after abuse.

It really feels like it’s written for those who are suffering or have suffered abuse, but it’s helpful for anyone to read to give a better basis to support those we may know now or in the future who suffer through this.





Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing – by Matthew Perry

31 07 2024

This was such a sad book to read, but I guess it’d be foolish to expect otherwise. It was published in 2022 in hardback, but he died in 2023, and so when the paperback came out this year, while the content of the book is the same, the “about the author” is in the past tense, and that alone broke my heart a little, but it doesn’t get much easier once the book starts. (I’ll be sharing more about the content of this book than I normally do, because it’s not exactly a spoiler to say life was hard for him!)

  • In the foreword by Lisa Kudrow, she finishes by saying, “He has survived impossible odds, but I had no idea how many times he almost didn’t make it. I’m glad you’re here, Matty. Good for you. I love you.” – the heart breaks a little more.
  • Then the prologue starts, “Hi, my name is Matthew, although you may know me by another name. My friends call me Matty. And I should be dead. If you like, you can consider what you’re about to read to be a message from the beyond, my beyond.” – I mean, really, he had no idea how quickly that became true.
  • In chapter one he says, “It is very odd to live in a world where if you died, it would shock people but surprise no one.” – just so accurate for how we felt that day.

A big theme of the book is the problems he had with addiction for most of his life, and we hear how at a month old, he was given barbiturates for colic for a month, and he obviously wonders how much it all has to do with that. At one point as an adult he’s up to 55 Vicodin a day among other things, he names all sorts of drugs that I’d never even heard of before. He tells us that over his life he spent about $7million just trying to get sober, and we hear a lot about that struggle too.

He talks about the women he’s loved with such affection, sadly most of these relationships seem to end because he’s scared, or doesn’t want to bring them down into what he’s dealing with – but remarkably he remained friends with several of them. He also talks about his desire to have children, and knowing that it never happened makes it so sad to read.

He also speaks about God a LOT more than I expected, including a prayer in 1994, not long before he got cast in Friends of “God, you can do whatever you want to me. Just please make me famous.”, then later, an experience he had of God’s presence in his kitchen when at one of his lowest points, and many of mentions of his sureness of God’s existence throughout. I’d seen articles referencing this in the past but never got around to reading them – I will now be going back to see what they have to say (here and here if you’re interested).

He talks about his weight fluctuation when on Friends: “You can track the trajectory of my addiction if you gauge my weight from season to season – when I’m carrying weight, it’s alcohol; when I’m skinny, it’s pills. When I have a goatee, it’s lots of pills.” He states that he was never high when they filmed it, but was hungover sometimes. Season 9 was the only season he was sober for the entirety of.

Towards the end of the book is where it gets tough. If you’d been reading it when he was still alive, it would have been full of hope as he talks about how he’s managed to quit drugs, drinking and smoking, and shares his hopes for the future, for the second half of his life. But of course, those of us reading it now, know that wasn’t to be, and it just made it yet another heart-breaking section.

The only criticism I’d have of the book, and the reason I only gave it 4 stars, is that the structure of it makes it a bit tricky to follow the timeline. It’s a series of chapters which I think are in chronological order, but with interludes between each which could be from anywhen, and even in the chapters, I’m not convinced he doesn’t sometimes flashback. Just a mention of a year here or there would be helpful. I mean, when he talks about Friends he does sometimes mention the series we’re at at that point, but maybe just something at the start of each chapter so you know how far time has moved on, and where we are, would have made me feel a little less lost at times. One story I think he told twice, but once in the prologue and once much later on when it fit in the timeline, and I guess he told different parts of it more the second time, either way, felt a bit odd.

While it was a sad book to read, it was easy to read as far as flying through it goes.

I’ve used the words “sad” and “heart-breaking” so many times in this post, but even so, I’m glad I read this book.





Surprised by Joy – by C.S. Lewis

14 06 2024

As part of my ongoing “one C.S. Lewis grown up book per year” target, I picked up Surprised by Joy. This is his autobiography, but focussing solely on his journey towards Christianity, finishing with his conversion as a young adult.

A lot of the time seems to be given to his schooling in various forms (“Life at a vile boarding school is in this way a good preparation for the Christian life, that it teaches one to live by hope.”), and then through WWI, university and into work in academia. I enjoyed reading his story, but occasionally, and more so towards the end, he got quite philosophical, which got a bit too clever for me, which I’ve found to be a common occurrence with these books.

He’s friendly in the way he talks though, and quite self-deprecating, at the end of chapter one saying he’s written it so that people can “see at once what they’re in for and close the book with the least waste of time.”





A Beginner’s Guide to Acting English – by Shappi Khorsandi

19 10 2023

These days the author is known by her full first name of Shaparak, but I’ve just put Shappi in the title of the post as that’s still what’s printed on this book as it was published in 2009.

Shaparak was born in Iran in the 70s, and her dad was a satirist, which didn’t go down brilliantly with those in charge, hence them ending up in the UK. This autobiography covers that move and the adjustment to life in a foreign country as a child, as well as the problems back home where her extended family still are, and the fact that they might still not be fully safe even in London.

A lot of it is about adjusting to culture, at times the kids adjusting better than the parents and being embarrassed by them, and obviously the difficulty of being seen as different at school.

It’s heart-breaking in places, but told in a way that’s mostly light, just like she’s talking to you to tell her story.





Once Upon A Tyne – by Ant & Dec

14 03 2021

I’m not going to claim that this was a high-brow read, it only took me five days. It was just reading a chat between friends as they went through the 30 years they’ve been on telly together. I was a bit too young for them in Byker Grove, but from SM:tv Live onwards I’ve watched most of their work and just enjoyed their “company”! And this book was the same, just felt like you were sat with them while they hung out and reminiscied.

I was concerned there might be a fair amount of overlap with their first book, but given how long it had been since I read that, it wasn’t too bad, that one had more of a personal focus, whereas this is mostly their career.

For the most part, each chapter covers a different programme they’ve been in together with a couple of bonus chapters for bits and pieces, and the royal family. I found the DNA Journey chapter interesting, probably because I never saw the programme!

It could have done with maybe one more proof read, there was one point they referred to the Queen as HRH instead of HM, and there was a sentence where I think a word was missing, but it’s not the end of the world.

The book is full of photos, which makes it really enjoyable (and even quicker to read!), and because of this, every page is glossy paper, and because of that, the book weighs nearly a kilo, even though it’s less than 300 pages – madness! Made it a bit tricky to read while falling asleep at night, but worth it to enjoy the photos properly.





How to be Champion – by Sarah Millican

21 07 2020

Needed a bit of light relief after my last read! I think I picked this up in The Works for a couple of quid forever ago, and over lockdown she’s been reading through it on her instagram for folk, and I thought I may as well get it read!

The subtitle for the book says it’s an autobiography, but in reality, it’s somewhere halfway between that and a self-help book. Nice short bite size chapters about all sorts of things from her life (chapters range from “Things I’ve been bullied for”, to “My favourite room in the house”, and everything inbetween), the majority ending with “how to be champion” tips. As you’d expect from a comedian, it’s a funny book, but she’s also done amazing work including #joinin and Standard Issue.

Some of my favourite quotes are below:

  • “People who wear glasses are all potential superheroes.”
  • “I have always believed in grassing people up, or as I call it ‘calling people out on bad behaviour.'”
  • “When I was about twelve I asked my parents how old I had to be before I could have a boyfriend. I wasn’t super keen but I like to know the rules so I don’t break them.”
  • “There’s no social mobility at school; if you’re a dowdy nerd, you’re a dowdy nerd for five years.”
  • “There’s nothing worse than an accurate insult.”
  • “The way I see it, I get my car checked regularly, why wouldn’t I do the same for my brain?”
  • “But art in all its forms is subjective. Comedian Chris Addison once said that people are too afraid to say something is not their cup of tea.”
  • “Plus how wonderful it is when seeds you’ve planted start to grow. My friend Juliet said it’s like the slowest-ever firework display.”





Talking As Fast As I Can – by Lauren Graham

20 07 2019

If you’ve never seen Gilmore Girls, probably don’t bother with this book. If you have, definitely do!
And if you haven’t, here’s the opening scene of the pilot to give you a taster of why you should:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5RRmtDOBt0I

I’d been trying to read something else for a while and hadn’t been able to get into it, so picked this up and just flew through it! It’s her autobiography but definitely with a focus on her career, and even more so on Gilmore Girls. My favourite bits were probably when she watched back a load of episodes from the original series and shared some thoughts and memories, and then her diary entries from when they made A Year In The Life, which this was published around the release of.

It also contained some pretty decent life advice, things she’s learnt along the way, from diet and exercise, to her thoughts on being single. But all of this normally comes with some tongue in cheek or wacky joke to keep the mood light!

It was a really easy read, and a lot of fun – as I say, probably wouldn’t interest you if you weren’t familiar with the show, but if you are, I think you’ll love it 🙂