A Woman’s Place is in the Kitchen – by Sally Abé

20 11 2025

I’ve been a Great British Menu fan for years, and Sally has been a contestant on it a three times now. A friend who also watches the show got me her book for my birthday, and I’ve really enjoyed it.

You always hear that professional kitchens are very male heavy environments, but this book really painted a picture of what it’s like to be in one.

The book starts with her aged around 18 and with zero interest in food, going through to a hospitality degree, doing her placement at the Savoy, transferring to Claridge’s when the Savoy closes for refurbishment, and working her way up through various kitchens until she’s running her own. She’s good at explaining most things, to the point of too much repetition occasionally, but it means you nearly never feel alienated. There’s the occasional French term used but I just looked them up, and it’s not often!

There were a couple of times she made comments that did make me feel a bit lesser, for example “I considered dinner at Pizza Express an upmarket night out” – er, yup I still do! She also refers a couple of times to things that make her now smile at her naivety, but they are things that most readers would have no clue about, having not worked in a professional kitchen. A comment about “the most demanding customers – the ones who don’t dine out unless it’s a ‘special occasion'” also grated a bit…
This all said, they were few and far between, and as I said, most things she explained excellently.

I loved reading about how she wanted to run her kitchen as a place where people are just treated better.
– Where you don’t feel terrified of being told off for doing something wrong, but instead where someone else would step in and help.
– Where people don’t work 16 hour shifts (the idea that people do 16 hour shifts blew my mind!).
– Where some shifts are adjusted so that people who need to do the school run can still work in a kitchen.
– Where no one is allowed in the kitchen before the start time, where in her earlier roles, if you were less than an hour early, you were considered late!
– Where people help each other carry large pots instead of watching them struggle.
– Where someone can reduce their hours when pregnant rather than have to give up work entirely.
In short, where it’s not a “badge of honour” to have a horrendous work-life balance. Her aims are really fantastic, and she’s achieving them.

A lot of the book is sharing the experiences she had that led to her wanting to make these changes, so you hear some truly awful things, but more than anything I just found it interesting to read, to learn about a way of life SO different from mine!

Great British Menu only got the briefest of glancing mentions, which was a shame. Not that she was negative about it, she spoke of the business it brought (or would have brought, had it not been for Covid) to her restaurant. To be honest, very little of her life outside of kitchens was covered at all (maybe because so much of her life was IN kitchens!) so I guess maybe she deemed it outside the focus of the book.

She did however cover Covid, and what it was like for those working in hospitality – you can still hear a lot of bitterness in her voice about the decisions the government made, particularly early on, advising people not to eat in restaurants, but doing nothing to support those working in them, and later when things reopened, making them close at 10pm.

Definitely worth a read if you want to learn what it’s really like in the kitchens that make your (or at least, fancy people’s) food. And really encouraging in regards to how things are changing for the better in some kitchens, albeit still with a long way to go overall.





Invisible Women: Exposing Data Bias in a World Designed for Men – by Caroline Criado Perez

29 04 2024

I’d wanted to read this for ages, and then suddenly a friend was offering to lend it to me, so I jumped at the chance.

It’s not a happy read, the whole way through, you are pummelled with negative stories and stats, that make you realise just how far we still have to go; there’s not a lot of celebrating progress made. The afterword talks a little about what can be done to improve things, but I think it might have made the book a little less harrowing if this was sprinkled more throughout.

That said, it felt like a very important read, it’s a reality. And it’s not just one person blindly sharing their opinion, it’s incredibly well researched; at the back of the book are 70 pages of references used! (Which gives an added bonus of the book not being quite as long as you first think it’s going to be!)

The author talks a lot about the “gender data gap”, this is when studies/designers/anyone just use data from men and assume it’s the same for women, or use data of both genders but don’t disaggregate it to look for differences between the two. But this isn’t right, because being equal doesn’t mean being the same.

Most of the content can be summarised in three main themes, the female body and its invisibility, male sexual violence against women, and unpaid care work.

A few quotes to give you a flavour:

  • “They didn’t deliberately set out to exclude women. They just didn’t think about them. They didn’t think to consider if women’s needs might be different.”
  • “[Women] were often discounted from studies as “confusing factors””
  • “We continue to rely on data from studies done on men as if they apply to women.”
  • “Men are more likely than women to be involved in a car crash […] But when a woman is involved in a car crash, she is 47% more likely to be seriously injured than a man, and 71% more likely to be moderately injured […] She is also 17% more likely to die. And it’s all to do with how the car is designed – and for whom.”
  • “There is one EU regulatory test that requires a […] female dummy. […] This dummy is only tested in the passenger seat. […] This female dummy is not really female. It is just a scaled-down male dummy.”
  • “PMS affects 90% of women, but is chronically under-studied: one research round-up found five times as many studies on erectile dysfunction than on PMS.”
  • “Getting to grips with the reality that gender-neutral does not automatically mean gender-equal would be an important start. And the existence of sex-disaggregated data would certainly make it much harder to keep insisting, in the face of all the evidence to the contrary, that women’s needs can safely be ignored in pursuit of a greater good.”




How to be a Woman – by Caitlin Moran

16 09 2018

I’ve always enjoyed following Caitlin Moran on Twitter so I picked this up in a charity shop to try out. Essentially it’s her autobiography from puberty onwards, crossed with a book about Feminism.

She writes in a way that’s very easy to read, she’s fun and chatty, though some of her descriptions of puberty got a little graphic in places!

That said, I really disagree with a good chunk of what she’s trying to say – I’m not anti-feminist as such, but on specific topics like abortion and porn, I definitely disagreed.

I’m not looking to start a whole debate on here, but just to pick up on one point – in her chapter on abortion she says the following:

“I cannot understand anti-abortion arguments that centre on the sanctity of life. As a species, we’ve fairly comprehensively demonstrated that we don’t believe in the sanctity of life. The shrugging acceptance of war, famine, epidemic, pain and life-long grinding poverty show us that, whatever we tell ourselves, we’ve made only the most feeble of efforts to really treat human life as sacred.”

That just makes no sense to me – yes we don’t deal with some of those things as we should, but we agree that they’re wrong and bad. They’re all things I’m against, this argument doesn’t line up at all.

Definitely an interesting read to get you thinking, but not one that has earned a permanent spot on my bookshelf.