Peer pressure

18 07 2014

I never thought of myself as someone who succumbed to peer pressure.

When you hear the phrase peer pressure I don’t know what comes to mind, but I think of things like under-age drinking, smoking, and all that jazz, none of which I even got close to trying at school, or after! These day’s I’m virtually tee-total other than the occasional champagne toast at a wedding, or 1 or 2 Pimms in a summer tops (in fact last year I found a yummy non-alcoholic equivalent to that!)

So anyway, I was never someone who went with the crowd at school, or let what other people thought affect what I did. And I though that was it.

Today I realised I was totally falling for it though, just not in the typical genre. A few of us have been doing a “boot camp” thing after work on Fridays, and I was adamant that at 29C it was too hot and I wouldn’t go today, but because every week I’ve been the person not wanting to go and being pretty negative about it, I got teased and told I should go along anyway. Even though I thoroughly believed it was a stupid thing to do to do strenuous exercise when I could barely handle the heat sat under a tree at lunchtime, I went along with them and went to get changed into appropriate attire.

I then realised what was happening, and started to beat myself up mentally for being so useless at standing up for myself, and so it was only when I came back out to my friends, obviously upset and moody, that they of course said I could just go home if I wanted, which is what I did, but until they said that, I was just going along with what they said to make sure they didn’t think I was useless or pathetic. That’s peer pressure right there.

Even though I’m sure none of them intended it to be peer pressure, they were only doing it with my best interests at heart, I really didn’t handle it well at all.

I guess there’s all different kinds of peer pressure, and lots more we keep learning about ourselves every day!





Internet highlights f/c 29th June 2014

12 07 2014

f/c as opposed to w/c so “fortnight commencing” as I was away last weekend 🙂

Funny warning signs

Less-obvious signs that you’re doing work you love

Top Doctor says UK needs 4 day working week – this is what I’ve been saying!!

One woman asked 25 different countries to make a photo of her “beautiful”

What some of the biggest websites looked like when they first launched

Loom Band dress on ebay

Redeeming Love is being made into a film

The BEST ways to eat chocolate chip cookies that you’d never even thought of!

https://twitter.com/wiggywalsh/status/483288228087476226

https://twitter.com/Mattbrammeier85/status/483555942643269632

https://twitter.com/GoodFoodguyd/status/485402720376213504

Fantastic advert from Always looking at when did “like a girl” become a bad thing? And how it affects girls self confidence





A royal priesthood, and living stones

7 07 2014

Last week I had a little holiday down in sunny(ish) Devon. My friend Julia and her husband James were being inducted as joint pastors of a church there on the Saturday, and on Sunday Julia spoke at the morning service. I really valued what she shared, so, after quite a long break since I last did this, my notes are below:

OT reading: Exodus 19 vv 1-8, NT reading: 1 Peter 2 vv 4-9.

God chose the Israelites to make His love known to the rest of the world through them, they were to be a showcase of how a relationship with God changes people for the better. They had a choice to keep the commands and covenant, and agreed to. They failed quite quickly.

In the OT a priest was someone who mediates between God and the people, who distributes the word and the blessings. We are called in 1 Peter 2 to be a royal priesthood, to share the word and blessings of God with those who haven’t yet heard. (I’d never understood that phrase until yesterday, I get it now!)

In the 1 Peter passage we are being built together. Stones can’t build themselves, God, the Builder, builds us. As living stones we have the ability to resist the Builder’s plans for us. The Builder may need to rub some rough edges off to fit us into a certain place. All sizes and shapes are needed. We are being built together.

Our thanksgiving, intercession and repentance needs, as a royal priesthood, to be on behalf of humanity, for those who don’t yet know the Lord, to cry out on their behalf, and to make sure we are living Godly lives.





Billy and Me – by Giovanna Fletcher

7 07 2014

I should admit the main reason I bought this book was because it was written by the wife of Tom from McFly, but I’d also had a friend read and like it, and it’s chick lit, so thought it was definitely worth a try.

The book focuses around a girl who lives in a small village, working in a tea shop, and falls for a young man who happens to be a massive teen movie star (which she doesn’t realise) who is filming locally, and what happens when she’s thrown massively into the limelight.

I enjoyed the read, it was an easy holiday book, though it got a little sickly sweet in places and though it has it’s ups and downs, it’s all a bit too easy!

billy and me





The Vow – by Kim & Krickett Carpenter

1 07 2014

This book was not at all what I expected.

I watched the film when it came out at the cinema. A story of a couple who have an accident and the woman loses all memory of her husband and he has to win her over again.

The key word in that trailer is “inspired by”, not “based on” true events. Technically that outline also covers the story in the book, except the details are very different, and for one key point: The book is a testimony. The book is the story of how God was central to their relationship, their marriage, and how they both had to lean on Him to get through it all. It is an autobiography and the focus is God. He doesn’t even get a look in on the film!

The book is also very different in the way they meet, how the relationship develops, the wedding, the relationship between the husband and her parents – it may as well be a different story but for the very basic outline.

I love this book because it shows how through the most truly awful circumstances, God worked through it, and brought them to a much better place than they could have imagined.

At the time apparently their story got a lot of press coverage, I don’t remember this, but they were so passionate to share what God had done each time they shared their story. It’s inspirational!

the vow





Internet highlights w/c 22nd June 2014

28 06 2014

A girl writes to Google asking if her daddy can have a day off

Websites you never knew you needed

Fantastic brand responses to Suarez’s mid-game “snack”

How some people see Christians

Weird maths facts

https://twitter.com/Fascinatingpics/status/481894359827488768

https://twitter.com/JesusOfNaz316/status/480402341858795522





The Fault In Our Stars – by John Green

28 06 2014

This is the first time in years and years that I’ve “binged” on a book. When I woke this morning I was on page 76. I’ve not had lunch yet and I’ve finished it, all 313 pages! I haven’t read that much in one go since Harry Potter as a teenager I reckon!

I know the film’s out at the moment and it’s a very current book (I bought it about 6 months ago but only just got round to reading it) so I don’t want to give away any spoilers. There’s so much I could say, but not without giving away major plot points.

I loved the characters, the humour, the location, the relationships, the realities – trying to keep this as vague as possible! It didn’t go down the path I expected it to at all in the end. All I can say is please read it!

Just a line from right near the end, but that doesn’t give anything away – I read it and thought how similar it is to the strapline of my blog in a way, and just how my head so often works:

“My thoughts are stars I can’t fathom into constellations”

the fault in our stars





dot co dot uk

28 06 2014

For anyone who’s visited here before you might have noticed a change this last week.

I’ve gone all high-tech savvy, and I bought my own domain! With a bit of help from a couple of friends, I set it all up, and mapped it over, so that this blog now runs out of ineke.co.uk instead of inekeclewer.wordpress.com – much less of a mouthful!

Don’t worry if you accidentally go to the old address though, it’ll just forward you to the new one 🙂 Happy days!

One of the perks of having a rather unusual name, I guess. I’ve never had to put random numbers on the end of an email address, and now I’ve even managed to get a 5 character web domain, and it wasn’t even expensive! Lovely.





How to fall in love – by Cecelia Ahern

26 06 2014

Wait, Ineke finished a book in under a week? I find Cecelia Ahern‘s books just whizz by for me – partly because I struggle to put them down, and partly because they’re so easy to read I just fly through them when I am reading them!

Another of her more “real” books, the basic premise is that our main character, who has a massive addiction to self-help books, finds a guy about to jump off a bridge and to stop him taking the leap, agrees to convince him his life is worth living before his next birthday – which happens to be 2 weeks away.

We delve into all his problems, and discover some of hers at the same time, which she just seems to be trying to ignore. A very engaging and involving book, even right towards the end I couldn’t quite work out where it would end up – which is quite a pleasing quality in it. The overall thread was relatively predictable, which can be quite comforting for chick lit, but the details of how it would happen were a little harder to guess.

Definitely recommended as a heartwarming, easy read!

how to fall in love





Red Letter Christianity – by Shane Claiborne & Tony Campolo

22 06 2014

My colleague Wendy recently said, “Most people who go to a Tony Campolo event know that they’re going to get ‘beaten up’ for justice.” and this book wasn’t far off of a punch in the face either – in a good way of course! I’ve heard both of these guys speak before, and always find they challenge my way of thinking and being. The book was no different.

The idea of Red Letter Christians is that they live their words specifically by the words that Jesus said. In some copies of the bible, every word Jesus spoke is printed in red so as to stand out from the black text.

Each chapter of the book took a different topic that Campolo and Claiborne would then discuss between them, sharing thoughts and perspectives. I found some of what they shared truly refreshing; they didn’t just go down the line you might expect them to!

In the chapter on pro-life, I expected this to just be a discussion on abortion, and of course some of it was. But there was also a lot of discussion on the quality of life throughout the whole of a persons life: “from womb to tomb”. They covered poverty, sin, and the death penalty alongside the obvious.

In the chapter on homosexuality, they open by discussing gay marriage, but actually when Tony shared his view on it, it took a whole new direction:

“While I believe that the government should not legalise marriage for people who are gay, I also believe that it should not legalise marriage for heterosexuals either. In fact, the government should get out of the marriage business completely and instead focus on civil rights for all of its citizens. It should treat both homosexual couples and heterosexual couples the same, guaranteeing both the same rights and privileges. Homosexual couples and heterosexual couples should be able to go down to the city hall and register as couples who want to be legally recognised as belonging to each other and receive the same civil rights available for all citizens who want to be in committed relationships. Then, if a couple wants to call the relationship a marriage, that couple should go down to a church and let the church perform the ceremony.” – Tony Campolo

The chapter on giving I found particularly helpful, confirming some stuff I’d been thinking about recently anyway, and looking at some prosperity gospel stuff which seems to keep rearing its head lately too.

Every chapter of this book had something to make you think, from liturgy to the middle east, from reconciliation to national debt, there isn’t a lot they don’t touch on somewhere and just stir some of your thought patterns that maybe had sat still for a bit too long.

Red Letter Christianity